Because all of Gideon’s play dates so far have included him and some pretty lady babies!
Over the past few months, a lot of friends around me have had babies and are learning to be moms alongside me. There is nothing more fun and validating than discussing new mommy issues with new mommies like myself. “Does such-and-such happen to you?”, “Yes! All the time!”. “What are you doing about such-and-such?”, “Oh…such-and-such seems to work for now.”, “That’s a great idea! I’ll try it!”.
If I only had one single piece of advice for a new mom, just one, I would tell her to surround herself with a good support system – people who will encourage her and support her through everything. A new mom needs people who will remind her that she’s brave and strong through breastfeeding, through sleep deprivation, through back pain and muscle tension. A new mom needs her family, spouse, and friends to be there for her. Furthermore, a new mom needs to let her family, spouse, and friends be there for her.
So much of what culture tells us as new mothers nowadays is that we should be able to take care of everything on our own. Media shows the mother looking perfectly groomed, using a product to clean an already spotless room. The world sets a bar for us that is unlikely if not impossible to reach. As a result, you have women who feel inadequate, insecure, and question their effectiveness as mothers and homemakers. Everyone and their dog has the answer to all of your questions, and you are simply incompetent. But the truth is this: dust particles are ever present in the air, most of us don’t have a staff that will meticulously remove every particle from our home, and no one knows your baby the way you do. No one.
Surround yourself with people who remind you of this, and you will get through whatever test or trial you are going through.
I’m rooting for you!